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What Do Men Look for in Women?

You may be thinking that men are easy to figure out – that what they look for in a woman is a lot easier to answer than what women look for in men.

But the good men out there are a little harder to understand. They too can be a little mysterious as to what they really want in a woman. And just like with women, some of them don’t even know what they want.

It takes two to tango, two to make a relationship work, and if either one is lacking, unfortunately, the relationship will probably end sooner rather than later.

But once you understand what men really want, it will be much easier to find the right mate and to have a wonderful, beautiful relationship. 

So, What Do Good Men Really Want?

1. Men Want a Partner

Some claim that all men are programmed to mate with every woman that he sees, so it’s almost in his blood to cheat. Although that may be true for unevolved males, it’s not true for most men. 

Men who cheat and cheat often are never happy. At the root cause of their problem is insecurity, lack of self-confidence, low self-esteem, and a general disregard for themselves and others. 

A man who is already happy in his life wants a happy partner to share his life and a strong, long-lasting, loving relationship.

2. Men Want a Self-Confident Woman

A confident woman, to most men, is very attractive. It’s a sign that she values herself and takes care of herself. It also implies that she has high standards, which is something a man to strive for.

Men like a challenge. They like to chase. They want to find a woman who they think may be too good for them because they are also looking for the best possible mate.

3. Men Want Women Who Look Good

It’s no secret. Both men and women are looking for a partners that look good. But, does “looking good” mean being born with the genes of a supermodel or working out 8 hours everyday?

Of course not! One of the best ways to make yourself look great is to improve how you carry yourself – your posture.

Posture is one of the first things that a man sees in a woman without even realizing it. A woman with poor posture indicates that she doesn’t think highly of herself, whereas, a woman with good posture shows confidence and poise.

At Embrazo, we teach both men and women how to carry themselves and how to move with elegance. This automatically projects confidence. When people look at themselves in the mirror and see a proud reflection of themselves, they feel more confident on the inside.

4. Men Want Women Who Think Positively About Themselves

Our thoughts can often get stuck on feelings of self-doubt, worry, and self-criticism. We are usually much harder on ourselves than anyone else would be. 

Judgment, whether it comes from others or ourselves, can wreak havoc on anyone’s self-confidence. 

So, what can you do? 

First, notice the thoughts that you have about yourself during the day. How many times per day do you say disparaging things to yourself? What are your own automatic negative thoughts? Do you unfairly compare yourself to others?

Then, start to replace those negative narratives with positive mantras instead. Here is a list of things you can say (affirmations) to yourself to counteract any automatic negative thoughts you may have:

  • I was born worthy and have nothing to prove. 
  • I love myself. 
  • I am beautiful inside and out!
  • I love who I am and who I am becoming. 
  • I am a great catch! 
  • I love being my spontaneous self. 
  • I am very attractive. 
  • I love my body and I love who I am. 
  • I love my sense of humor.
  • I love being my own, true, authentic self. 
  • I love being good to myself. 
  • I love everything about me. 

Self-confidence is just that – it is confidence that must come from yourself – from inside of you. You can create confidence or take it away with the power of your thoughts. It’s that simple. 

5. Men Want Women Who Let Them Lead

A confident, self-assured, strong man wants a woman who will let him lead. But following does not mean that you must be in submission to him. The self-confident man knows that you are his partner – and should see you as a complete and total equal.

All great relationships have roles to play, and sometimes those roles can be switched. A healthy relationship is about adapting together and becoming better as two than what either of you could have been alone. 

At Embrazo’s social dance classes, we teach both men and women that leading isn’t pushing around or forcing. When a man leads, he’s inviting the woman. By following, the woman accepts the invitation and moves on her own. 

Leading and following, in our social dance classes, is much like how it works in relationships. The man leads with confidence and invites the woman to follow him. The woman, if she is interested, will gracefully follow on her own, while adding her own style and finesse. 

6. Men Want a Woman Who Loves Life

Have you ever been around somebody with a magnetic personality? Whatever room they walk into, people take notice, and everyone can sense their love for life.

A person who loves life loves everything and everyone in it. They’re seen as seen as someone who is positive, uplifting, fun, exciting and engaged in life. They become the life of the party, and people are naturally attracted to them.

If you’re reading this right now and this is getting you depressed because you think that this doesn’t describe you, don’t worry! You too can develop this kind of magnetic, attractive personality. 

How can you start to love your life more? 

You can start by appreciating everything that you already have in your life by creating a gratitude journal. Write in it what it is that you like about your life, and write more about what you want than what you don’t want.

Write for the pleasure of writing without expectation, and you will start to notice that you naturally feel better about yourself and your life. It only takes 5 to 10 minutes a day. The act of writing has almost a magical power to it too. Don’t just try to say positive things to yourself. Write them down!

When you start to love yourself and love life, you will attract more positive people, circumstances, and events into your life.

7. Men Prefer Women Who are Approachable

Embrazo’s social dance classes teach both men and women how to build confidence and how to approach one another. The problem is that in most social situations such as a club, women think that they should be passive and let the men do all the work. 

But it’s quite the opposite. In a social situation, men will scan the room looking for women who look nice, but more importantly, who are approachable. So, if a woman ignores everyone in the room by playing with her drink or getting involved in an intense conversation, she could miss out on meeting someone special! 

It’s hard to break old habits, so that’s why we have a class dedicated to teaching you how to make subtle but powerful eye contact with a man who you are interested in. We actually practice it, and it works! 

Being approachable and active doesn’t stop with being asked to dance. An active dance partner is responsive to the signals a man sends when leading and moves on her own without having to be pushed. She listens to their lead but then takes initiative, adding grace and elegance to the dance. It becomes a beautiful dance together. When she just drags along, it’s not fun.

Given a choice between a beautiful but passive woman and a woman who is having a good time and is working “with” her partner, almost all men would choose the latter.

Come and Meet Some Good Men

Now that you know what the good men are looking for in women, it’s time to go and meet them. Embrazo’s social dance classes offer a great opportunity for men and women to connect, in a stress-free and fun activity.

Meet men from your area who actually show up, treat women with respect and are looking for a true partner.

Want to get started? Join today!