Finally, you think that you’ve met the right guy. He’s everything that you ever wanted in a man, but he gives you mixed signals and you’re not sure if he’s serious about your relationship. You talk to your girlfriends. Some tell you to hang in there and some tell you to move on.
Is he serious about the relationship? Or are you just wasting your time?
What should you do?
The following tips will help you to decide whether or not he’s serious about you. The more tips here that apply to him, the more likely it is that he is serious about you.
So, let’s start with the first point…
He Really Listens to You
If a guy is serious about you, he will really listen and he won’t take anything you say for granted. He may not know how to listen to both your verbal and non-verbal communication, and he may take you for your exact words instead of how you may feel. But for a lot of guys, they do that because they simply don’t know how to read women very well. For some guys, no one ever taught them how to pay attention to non-verbal communication. For example, if you’re feeling awful and he asks how you’re doing and you say, “I’m doing fine” in a sort of negative manner, he may just take you for your word and not pay attention to how you’re actually feeling. He may not even realize that you’re not fine.
It may be that he’s a good guy who is serious about you but doesn’t understand how to communicate, or, it could be that he does understand but doesn’t really care to find out more. You have to figure your guy out.
A guy who is serious will do his best to listen as well as he can.
You should be able to easily tell if he really listens. Does he pay attention to you when you talk? Does he ask clarifying questions to make sure he understands fully? And does he make you feel heard?
Listening is a skill. And if your guy doesn’t really have the skill but does his best, then he probably is serious about the relationship. If you have your doubts, then look for other signs if he’s serious or not.
He Makes Future Plans
If you see that he makes plans for the future with you, that’s a really good sign. And, of course, the further out the plans, the better. What that means is that he expects you and him to still be in a relationship and that there is a future for both of you together.
Pay attention to the type of plans he makes. Is the trend getting more and more involved? If yes, that’s another good sign. Do the plans involve more time together than before? That’s another good sign. Is he spending more and more money with every new plan that he makes with you? That’s another good sign.
He Checks Up on You
If your guy hasn’t heard from you in a while, if he is serious about you, he’ll text or call you just to check in on you to see how you’re doing. He may start to get a little worried that something is wrong or that you’re losing interest. It’s actually good for him to wonder for a little bit. Just don’t ignore him too much or he may start to think that something is really wrong and decide that you’re the one who is not that serious about the relationship.
Whatever you do, don’t look at him checking in on you as a negative thing. Some women make the mistake of getting offended because the guy shows too much concern like a father. But if he’s checking in on you, don’t get offended. It’s a good thing. It means he’s serious…
What’s another sign that he’s serious?
He Helps You with Any Problem
Guys like to fix things and it’s their way of showing that they care. If you tell him about a problem that you’re having and he offers a solution, in his mind, that shows that he cares. Sometimes women just want to be heard and don’t necessarily want a problem to be fixed, but sometimes men don’t understand that. Typically, a man will offer you a solution no matter what. Just know that if he offers to help you with a problem, that’s a good sign. Let him do his part to try to offer a solution. That’s just the way guys are. In his mind, if there’s a problem, then here’s a solution. That’s his way of showing you that he cares and is serious about you.
When a guy cares about a woman, he naturally wants to take care of her. He wants to do everything he can to show her that he loves her without having to say it. So, if you have problems that he is always helping you solve or at least offers help, chances are, he’s pretty serious about you.
Whether the problem is that your car broke down in the middle of the highway, or you have a clogged bathtub, no matter what it is, he’ll be there to help solve the problem. If he doesn’t show any interest in helping you with problems that you have, it usually means that he’s either a bit on the selfish side or that he’s not all that serious about the relationship.
Still not sure if he’s serious?
He Makes You a Priority
If your guy cancels things that he has planned to be with you, that’s another great sign. It means that you are a priority to him. Or, if he makes you a priority on the weekends for dates, that’s another great sign. He’s showing you that you are a priority by putting you first.
But if he doesn’t put you first sometimes, it could be that he has to do something that is really important to him, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s not serious about you. For example, if he runs into engine problems with his car and he must fix it on the weekend before going to work on Monday, he’s going to have to put working on his car as a top priority. In that case, be as understanding and supportive as you can and he’ll really appreciate it.
If your guy is serious about the relationship, usually, he will go out of his way to make you a priority. He will plan things with you for the weekend, and during the week too. You will know if he makes you a priority or not. The bottom line is that if, in general, he makes you a priority in his life, then you can be rest assured that he’s pretty serious…
He Does Thoughtful Things
Does he remember your birthday? Points for him if he does. Does he ever get you a surprise, thoughtful gift that took effort on his part to figure out and get for you? Then he’s pretty serious. Does he remember the date of your first date? Extra kudos to him if he does. Does he do thoughtful things like surprise you with small little gifts that you need? Or want? If he does thoughtful things like that, he’s pretty serious about you…
Any time that a guy does thoughtful things for a girl, it’s a great sign that he’s serious. It means that when you’re not around, he’s thinking about you. Not only is he thinking about you, but also, he cares enough about you and your life to make things better.
But don’t write him off if he’s not that thoughtful. He may be not that thoughtful but still can be a good guy who is serious about the relationship. Much of it has to do with his personality, his experience in life, whether he had a good example from his own dad, and his own training at home. The point is that if it seems like he’s not that thoughtful, it may be that he just doesn’t understand how important it is to do the little things in order to strengthen the relationship.
Some guys have to be told how to treat women! Of course, you don’t want to have to be the one to do it, but that is an option.
He’s Introduced You to His Friends
When a guy introduces you to his friends, that’s a pretty serious step for him. He isn’t going to introduce you if he has doubts about you, or if he thinks they won’t like you.
Introducing you to his friends is the step just before introducing you to his parents and family. It’s a pretty big deal and it’s a good sign that he’s serious.
But again, there is an exception to this rule too!
If he doesn’t introduce you to his friends, it could be that he’s embarrassed to introduce you because he is worried that you won’t like his friends. Maybe he doesn’t want you to meet his friends because they’re all rude, crude dudes who he knows will probably turn you off and make you think less of him…
Again, this one shouldn’t be a deal breaker, but if he did introduce you to his friends, that’s a great sign.
Where to Find Good Guys
At Embrazo’s social dance classes, we attract good guys who want to learn how to treat a woman right. We teach how to approach women and how to tell when they are interested or not. We also teach women how to let men know when they are interested and when they are not. And we do it all in a fun and light atmosphere.
There really isn’t any better way that we can think of in order for women to meet men, and men to meet women.
When you’re dancing with a man, even for only a few minutes, you’ll know how interested he is in you. Both men and women can say what they want, but the body doesn’t lie.
Take all of the stress out of meeting men and join our social dance classes today!