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How to Attract the Right Men

You may have heard of something called the “law of attraction” which many say is the most powerful law in the universe.

We attract people who are like us. This is why people who believe that they aren’t good enough attract other who support that belief. When you don’t have enough self-confidence, you will attract men who either match that feeling or who want to take advantage of a woman who feels that way about herself. Therefore, it’s important for you to first work on yourself before you work on attracting the right men into your life. 

If you think that all men are bad, then you will attract men that are bad. If you feel anger inside about life for whatever reason, you’ll attract angry men. If you feel like you don’t deserve to have a good man, then you won’t attract him. But if you do, you will. It’s that simple! 

What Can Women Do to Attract the Right Men?

1. Be Who You Want to Attract

If you want a guy who has his act together, get your act together first. If you want a guy who is happy, has a life, is loyal and true, you be the same. If you want a guy who is well-rounded and has great relationships with his family and friends, be that person, too. 

The way it works is that you attract what you are feeling now. Many self-help gurus talk about this. We have it all backwards. You create your reality by feeling as if you already have what you want before you have it.

If you decide that you’re not going to be happy until the guy of your dreams manifests, you will end up waiting forever. But if you work on becoming the best version of yourself now, the right guy will naturally be attracted to how happy you are.

2. Pretend He’s Already Here

How would you feel if the guy of your dreams was already here? How would you act? How much happier would you be then

Neville Goddard was a popular self-help author and he said that to manifest what you want; you have to create the feeling of the wish fulfilled before it could come. Although he was mainly focused on material things and money, this concept can be applied to relationships too. 

Daydreaming about the right man is a great way to get into the feeling of what it would feel like to have him in your life already. Imagine doing fun things with him. And imagine doing mundane things but feeling very happy. 

Take just 5 minutes a day to get into a comfortable place, close your eyes and imagine being with the perfect guy of your dreams. See yourself and him laughing and having fun. Really get into the feeling of it. And don’t visualize in order to manifest him – visualize him for the pleasure of visualizing. When you force yourself to do it and it doesn’t feel good to you, you cannot create the right vibe to attract him. 

3. Be Self-Confident

Self confidence is a great attractor. If you want to attract a man who is self-confident, don’t you think he would want the same thing in a partner?

Self-confidence shows that you value yourself, that you are not afraid to go after what you want in life, and that you have a general positive view of yourself and life. 

Self-confidence is an inside job. It’s something that you must cultivate within yourself. The way to build self-confidence is to stop saying any negative thoughts to yourself and replace them with positive thoughts. It’s not as easy as it sounds, but if you focus on improving how you feel through your thoughts, you can build more and more self-confidence. 

Another way to build self-confidence is to do things that you want to do but have been afraid to do in the past. When you do what you want to do and do it with or without fear, you build self-confidence. And when you do something that before you were too afraid to even try, with time, it gets easier and easier, and that builds self-confidence.

One of the keys to building self-confidence is not caring what other people think anymore. If, for example, you’re a great singer, but you’re afraid to try to sing for a friend, family or in a public setting, try not to be afraid of what people might say. Do it anyway! Sing anyway. Stop caring what others think and do the things that you were afraid of before. Life is too short to be worried or fearful of what others think.  

Over time, you’ll gain more and more confidence in yourself in all aspects of life. 

4. Keep Growing

Both men and women sometimes make the mistake of getting into a relationship and losing who they really are – they put their own life on hold to support the other. 

Don’t do that! If you give up all of your own dreams in life for your boyfriend,  you will start to resent him and then want out of the relationship. The temptation will be to blame him for everything, and leave.

The other ironic thing about putting your boyfriend’s needs, wants and desires ahead of your own is that in the long run, he may start to disrespect you for giving up your own life and not following your own path. It’s a lose/lose situation that you can easily make a win/win if you simply be a little more selfish in your own life and follow your own path and dreams. 

Of course, there are exceptions to this as there is with everything. The point is to be careful not to stop your own life for anybody. You both should pursue what you want in life, and if the relationship works out, great! If it doesn’t, then that’s great too because it means that you are clearer as to what you want in a relationship.

The best relationships are when he honors, respects, and supports your own path in life, and you do the same thing for him. Don’t stop living your life just because he came into yours. And if he’s demanding and wants you to stop growing, it’s a sign to get out of the relationship. 

Show him that you have a life and show him how passionate you are about the things you enjoy. When he sees how passionate you are about anything that you choose, the right type of guy will get excited and passionate about it too. If he’s the wrong type of guy, he won’t, and you can use that as a way to tell if he’s worth your time or not. 

5. Be Independent

Closely related to growing is being independent. You don’t want to give your guy the feeling that you’re needy or jealous. The best relationships are when both of you have great lives apart when you must be apart, and great lives together when you can be together.

The movies do a huge disservice to all of us. Tom Cruise says in the movie Jerry Maguire, “You complete me.” No one should complete you. You are already 100% complete. If you’re not 100% complete right now, then take a little more time to work on yourself before you get into a relationship.

The best relationships happen when both partners are whole and complete first.

Put Yourself Out There and Meet Great Men

A social dance class is a great place to meet the right men. At Embrazo’s social dance class we take the extra step for both men and women to meet one another in a safe and fun setting. Our social dance classes attract the right type of men because these are guys who truly want to learn how to treat a lady right. 

At Embrazo, we take the stress out of helping men and women attract the right partners. 

Join now and easily find the right men!